Finding Help In Marriage While Going Through The Storm

Has your marriage become draining and without finding help in marriage you dread that divorce is on the horizon? Sometimes you might feel as though your marriage is in the midst of a terrible storm with no relief in sight. The one thing that you can’t do is give up.

I recently watched on the news a tale about some fishermen whose boat ran into a terrible storm and their boat capsized very quickly. It’s hard to believe that some of the men swam 8 to 16 hours to survive the ordeal. Many of the men felt like giving up but determined that living was better than dying in the middle of the ocean. Unfortunately some of the fishermen gave up and didn’t make it. Don’t let your marriage die.

If you need help in marriage to make it through the ups and downs you are experiencing in your marriage, please read some of the suggestions outline below.

Help In Marriage Tip #1 – Develop Some Thick Skin

One trait that most of us have is that we can dish it out but we don’t like to take it. Somehow we miss the times when we are rude, annoying, arrogant, irritating and down right offensive. Very often we only see that out spouse has done something that we can’t stand and it irks us to no end. Perhaps you are one of those spouses who easily gets upset at something your spouse said or did to you. My suggestion is that you learn how to brush these things off and go forward. If you don’t, your marriage will forever be stuck in a rut.

Help In Marriage Tip #2 – Learn How To Please Your Spouse

Do you feel as though you know your spouse’s likes and dislikes? Might I question, when was the last time that you checked? It is quite possible that what use to make your spouse pleased, no longer does. Marriage can become mundane and dull when couples stop asking questions and stop trying to find new ways to make their soul mate feel appreciated and loved. Please take a small time and find out if your spouse has changed and adjust what you do or how you interact with him or her accordingly.

Help In Marriage Tip #3 – Let Problems Of The Past Remain There

It is very common for couples to bring up ancient issues when dealing with a current marital issue. The natural behavior when fighting is to use every weapon that you have at your disposal to win the fight. But, in a marriage it’s vital to remember that your spouse is not your enemy. You are on the same team and need to always remember that your goal should be to fight to keep your marriage and not end it. If you continuously bring up the past it will limit your ability to see a bright future together.

Help In Marriage Tip #4 – Never Stop The Intimacy In Your Marriage

I’m pretty certain that one of the things that got you and your spouse together was the physical attraction you had toward one another. I don’t mean to be insulting but if I had to place a wager I would bet that your sex life was better in the beginning of your marriage than it is now. You have it within your power to fix this. Sometimes, couples use there problems as an excuse to no longer be intimate or at least passionate about intimacy. Sharing time alone i.e., talking, caressing and doing whatever you like to do, will go a long way in helping your marriage make it through the rough times. Don’t take a timeout from intimacy.
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