Wednesday, June 15, 2011

My Ex Girlfriend Is Moving Away - Does This Mean That It Is Definitely Over For Good?

People move in and out of our lives all of the time, but there are some people that you hope will never move out of your life. It could be a really good friend of yours, or it could even be a girlfriend that you hope never leaves. What can you do though when you find out your ex girlfriend is moving away and there is still all of these feelings that you have of wanting to get her back? Does this mean that you need to chuck them out the window and accept that it is definitely over for good?
Well, sometimes it DOES. And sometimes... it DOESN'T. I had a friend that needed some advice on this exact situation not too long ago and you might be surprised at how it all turned out for him. The general run down of this situation goes like this. My friend and his girlfriend broke up, a few weeks passed and she called him out of the blue to tell him that she had decided to move out of state to another state where a couple of her girlfriends were living.

My friend was pretty beat up about this, as I am sure you can imagine. He immediately went into a funk and assumed the worst. He told me that he could already see in his mind her finding a new guy in a new place and that would be the end of any chance that he had to win her back.

I told him... don't get too worried, there is a way to go about this that can actually be kind of good for you.

Here is what I mean:

When someone just up and moves away after something in their life does not work out (break up, job loss, etc), it almost always is a sign of them running away. Meaning, they are not making the decision to move away because they want to, it has more to do with the fact that they are just trying to run away from whatever is not working out in their life.

So, I told him to be cool about the situation, to maintain *some* contact with her, and to have an open mind about the way things would turn out. Then I told him why I wanted him to do all of these things.

You need to stay in contact with your ex girlfriend if she moves away, because let's face it. It's not like you can bank on the possibility of just running into her at the mall or something like that. But here's where it really can get interesting. Most people that move away like this are full of hope for the first week or two.

Then, they have to deal with the reality of it not being all that different than where they were before. They have to deal with the fact that they probably don't know too many people. Translation: She is going to get LONELY.

Now, as long as you are still in contact with her, and she gets lonely... guess who she is going to want to call when that feeling hits her, which usually happens at night?

YOU!

And she is in a state where she starts to look FORWARD to calling you. Hey, she might even think about that all day long while she is at her new job. All that time just thinking about you. Now, had you gotten upset and closed the door to her... she would not be calling on you at those moments.

You might think of this as taking advantage of her feeling lonely, but that is not really the case. You still have feelings for her, so of course you are going to want to be there when she needs someone. That's all you are really doing. However, it just so happens to work out where you are the guy she can turn to, and the guy she starts to think about ALL of the time.

Long story short: My friend GOT his ex girlfriend back after a couple of months. He DID become the guy she turned to, and next thing you know... she invited him to visit her and they rekindled things. Of course, once things got rekindled... they got back together and she moved back to be with HIM. Not bad, right?

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