Surviving An Affair - The One Emotion That Can Stop The Healing

Once again another public figure due to their own arrogance and lack of self-control has placed themselves as well as their family in a most humiliating position. That is to go before the media and confess to infidelity. In the meantime their significant other has to make a show of standing by their mate's side and vowing to be there to the bitter end. Yes that is in essence what it says in the marriage vows but nobody expects to go that route due to the immaturity of their spouse.

That is not to imply the feelings of love and loyalty no longer exists. In many instances those emotions are quite genuine and will remain so no matter what obstacle the couple faces. It won't be easy but many people that have experienced infidelity first hand have come back to have even stronger marriages than before. While adversity can be a breaking point of no return it can also make a husband and wife realize how much they really do love each other.

Yet to rebuild what was destroyed means to deal with a lot of emotions that threaten the process. Confusion as to why this had to happen is one. There is also anger at being betrayed. Not only have they severely damaged the trust but your mate has also wounded your sense of self. You cannot help but ask was it something you did or did not do that caused them to stray.

That anger can easily lead to another emotion which threatens to end the marriage for good. It's the feeling of contempt.

Anger in itself can be dealt with. Like a summer storm it can be fierce but after it passes things are able for the most part to return to normal. Contempt after infidelity has the capacity to just linger. Every time you look at your spouse you see someone who is beneath you. Not only does their cheating make you sick to your stomach but the actual person as well. Whatever they say or do triggers this emotion. Even when they are not in your presence the very thought of your significant other fills you with disgust.

If you are not careful it is easy for contempt to eat away at you like some rapidly spreading disease. The end result is there is no way on earth that you are going to stay with this person. And while you have not started legal action yet the marriage is for the most part officially over.

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